"She Believed She Could So She Did!" - #TruthTuesday

January 17, 2017

Happy New Year! I’m working on getting back at it and on track after the holidays. I am finally making it back to writing #TruthTuesday

Today, I dedicate my #truthtuesday post to my sister, Patty. At 6:49 am this morning she boarded a local express bus that whisked her on her way to her new and most fabulous adventure yet - Nursing School! After two long years, of working two jobs at one point, and going to school to finish the required prerequisites in order to apply to the nursing school program of her choice, she is officially on her way and living her dream. 

“She believed she could so she did.”

This is the quote that Patty repeated over and over and over again as motivation to get through the hardiest and most trying times so that she could get to exactly where she wanted and dreamed of most…getting on that bus with her books, scrubs, stethoscope, notebooks, pens and a hot cup of coffee today to start the first day of the rest of her life. 

Now, I promise you, for Patty to get to this moment in time it was not always easy, and on occasion, maybe even a little unrealistic. She turned 39 this month. And at 39 years old, there are way too many people who would use their age as an easy out, a perfect excuse to say new dreams, new careers, a new life are not options at “that age” anymore. But not Patty, and not for one minute did she ever let her age to deter her, even when she joked about being the oldest in her study group. 

Patty is embarking on what I like to call her “next life.” Patty truly searched high and low, fell down and got back up more times than she probably wants to even revisit. But here is the thing. We all have to do that and go through that. How else would we recognize the “thing” that inspires us, makes us feel alive, gives us purpose, joy, and confidence? That “thing” - in the end - makes all of the hard and ugly stuff worth every moment. And the only way you every get to meet that “thing,” live that “thing,” is to keep going and never quit. We all know that life is not a straight line. I can tell you that from my own life experiences, and I know Patty would tell you that too. But, she “just keeps swimming!” Taking on the currents, the storms, the calm waters and the murky, too. She kept her eye on the ball, always! No matter if she swam off course a bit or if conditions she had zero control over slowed her stride, she did not let that stop her. She rerouted, she came up with a new plan, asked for help, she approached things in a different way, she thought outside-the-box.

Briefly, let me touch on the "asking for help" point mentioned above. THIS IS HUGE. No one can achieve their dream or continue on their journey towards and beyond their dream if they don’t ask for help when help is needed. Let go of your pride, it is about your “thing,” not saving face. We all need help in this world, so ask for it. There is no shame in asking. More often than not, people WANT to help, want to support you, want to be apart of your greatness and making your great dream a reality. So just do it. Ask for help.

Finally, in the end, Patty keeping her eye on the “nursing school” ball got her exactly where she is today, sitting in a classroom in downtown Denver doing her “thing” - and keeping her eye on her next ball - receiving her Bachelor of Science in Nursing (BSN) and starting her new career as a nurse. Will the next 18 months be hard, have ups and downs, and moments when she wants to cry and quit? Yes. But will she? No. Because she’s knows exactly what to do. She will keep her eye on that ball, and has the strategies in place to get her there. And whatever her next “thing” is after graduating, I know it will be awesome and she will have no problem achieving it. 

Today’s #TruthTuesday take-aways:

    #1. Believe you can and you will.

    #2. Your age does not matter when it comes to going after your dreams and making your               
    life whatever you want it to look like. 

    #3. It can, and will be hard. Keep going. 

    #4. It is okay, even necessary, to ask for help in order to get achieve your dream. 

    #5. Feel and be present with the hard stuff, the ugly stuff, and the sad stuff. That way you            
    will know 100% what the good stuff is when you find it.

    #6. Just keep swimming. (Yes, I am quoting “Finding Nemo.”)

    #7.  Keep your eye on the ball.

And saving the most important for last.     

   #8. That I am the proudest sister and maybe person (except for Patty of herself) in the          
   entire universe of what Patty has accomplished, and what she has weathered to get there. How    
   time-after-time she picked herself up and dusted herself off, worked as hard as she could, stuck
   to her plan, didn’t listen to naysayers or doubters, ignored and rid her energetic space of
   toxic people, choices and objects, and just kept going.

Patty Lynne Hurley, I am over the moon proud and excited for you. Batwoman, you made it with grace, strength, love for yourself, determination, confidence, style and a sense of humor. We all could stand to take a rule or two out of your playbook! You deserve today and every fantastic “thing” you will undoubtedly achieve on your life’s journey. 

 SBSCSSD. And you did. Congratulations my most favorite and fabulous person and role model. Love you! 

© Kelly A. Hurley. 2017.


After the first of the year, I will start regularly sharing my musing through my other love - probably truth told, my first love - writing. Musings might be a bit deep for every post, but you will certainly get a taste of what’s on my mind. I don't remember a time in life that I didn't love writing. I still have the “book” I wrote in 4th grade - the cover appropriately designed with pink crepe paper, abstractly painted with watercolors. I've been writing all along - working on my book writing for myself, writing for clients and writing for my business. But it's time that I write about what's deep down. My passions, My loves. My life. My truth.  Not to preach or pretend to know it all with deep philosophical thoughts. But maybe to just connect with another human being that can relate. 

More to come on the launch of "My Musings" and its purpose later, but today I dip my toe in the water with what I am calling #truthtuesday. Social media is overflowing in abundance with perfected photos, in an effort to put up a facade or cover up truth - not in a bad, shady kind-of-way, but in a way that we all feel like we need to present these perfect life moments that some days just don't exist. 

With #truthtuesday, I will share my “truth” for that day, of the day, with the hopes of unmasking what isn’t for what is - without judgement or expectation. Simply, fact in the what is. It's about transparency. And I hope that it encourages others to do the same. The truth doesn’t have to be ugly, it doesn’t have to be pretty, it doesn't have to be exciting, it doesn't have to be boring, it doesn’t have to have emotion connected to it all - it simply needs to be #yourtruth on #truthtuesday. So here goes. 

#truthtuesday - November, 29, 2016

Today I hurt. Everywhere. But it is a better day than the last four days have been. So there’s the silver lining. But the frustration, not as good as pre-October. Stress, weather, work, life...I've allowed them to undo me. My body takes the hit first. I am so body aware that usually, I can stop and rebound quickly. But this time everything snowballed, and I'm working my way back from a deeper, uglier hole. Yesterday, I got myself to early morning spin and fit wall class. When I hurt, it is even more important that I keep working out - keep moving. Then, later in the day I taught what I love most - my Adaptive Yoga class. And then I was done. I came home and slept for three hours. A good night's sleep saved me. Sleep always helps to heal the previous day, allowing me to deal with "what is" when I wake. I got my butt to physical therapy early this morning where the amazing Dr. Ashley Hoath (coalcreekpt.com) helped put my body back together for today. Afterwards, I thought I could make it through Pilates. I even got myself there and inside only to give my instructor a hug, and turn around to head home. But here is the thing about living with chronic pain and disease. You don’t get a day off. If it gets really bad you may take a day here and there, but the reality is you learn how to “do life” as is. It's a choice. And let me be clear here, every single person who lives with pain and disease on a chronic level who chooses to live - looks different from another! Living for one person may be simply the goal and achievement of getting out of bed and to the couch for the day. And that is AWESOME. And for another it may be going to a job and making it home at the end of the day. That is AWESOME too. For me, some days it's putting on makeup - because it makes me feel pretty and present and human! And that is AWESOME, as well. There should NEVER be any judgement or expectation of what LIVING with chronic pain and disease looks like. NOR should someone living in that body compare themselves to anyone else - EVER. I could go on, but that is a blog post for another day.

But today, I still want to slay. I want work. I want to feel productive. I want to make awesome things happen. I want to practice yoga. I want to teach yoga. I want to write. So I put my head down, take a deep breath and go. I won't beat myself up that Pilates didn't happen. That's just for today...and what is. Thursday or next Tuesday, Pilates will probably be in the cards. So I stay present. I don't allow my mind to wander to the "what ifs" because that doesn't serve me now. 

So today, no fancy pictures of me with my legs over my head in some crazy yoga pose, or even my feet in badass pair of high heels ready to go out and kick-butt, but me - with fuzzy warm boots on too keep my feet from turning purple (purple is the new skin tone with newly diagnosis Raynaud’s Disease and Chilblains - super sexy!), glasses on - girl boss at work (and one whose eyes are aging and need glasses to see), with an ice pack strapped her bum hip and Quadratus Lumborum (QL) to help the pain, and a 10-pound sandbag on her thighs to help keep her grounded and focused (Fibromyalgia makes it nearly impossible to focus some days due to what is called Fibro Fog. Another post, another day.)  So today, this is how I slay. Instagram sexy? Probably not. But it’s real. #truthtuesday

Until next Tuesday, loves. What’s your truth?

#truthtuesday #whatisyourtruthtoday #girlboss #todayIslay #chronicpainthriver #chronicdiseasethriver #warriorwoman #silverlinings #thisiswhatreallookslike #yesIwillprobablynaplater #butyoudontlooksick #butiam #butitstilldoesntstopmecompletely #kahyoga #accessibleyoga #adaptiveyoga #yogaforeverybody

Stay tuned for deep thoughts about...

  • The this and thats of yoga.
  • Life as an imperfect being.
  • Adaptive yoga, adaptive yoga & adaptive yoga. 
  • Making yoga accessible and available to everyone.
  • How I THRIVE living with chronic disease, chronic pain and Fibromyalgia.
  • Shining the spotlight on other fabulous yogi and yogini warriors.
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